The Power of Self-Reflection: 10 Questions You Should Ask Yourself.

I got this from my therapist, and thought it would be a good thing to share. I'll reevaluate my answers every month or so. Posting it here with honest answers keeps me accountable, whether anyone reads it or not...

To find yourself, lost and without purpose, wondering how you ended up where you are, is a scary thought. If you are not careful, not mindfully aware of where you are going, you could end up somewhere far from where you want to be. These are 10 helpful questions that we each ought to ask ourselves on a frequent basis. The power of self-reflection can serve to keep you in check, to keep you focused on self-improvement and ensure that you are as fulfilled as possible. Through frequent self-reflection, we can make sure that we’re on the right path. Lack of self-reflection can cause us to seem lost or without a purpose. Time flies by and without consciously evaluating our circumstances, we can let so many aspects of our lives slip away: our health, our relationships, our goals. It’s necessary for us to unplug for a few minutes every now and again, when possible, and address a variety of the questions.

1. Am I using my time wisely?

    No, I am the queen of procrastination. 

2. Am I taking things for granted?

    Yes, I am the first one to complain about something or get irritated. I don't take the time to reflect on the positive things I have going on in my life: family, health, stability, able to buy things I want. 

3.Am I employing a healthy prospective?

    No, I have the world at my fingetips, yet I let myself feel empty. 

4. Am I living true to myself?

    No, I definitley sell myself short. 

5. Am I waking up in the morning ready to take on the day?

    No, the snooze button is my best friend. 

6. Am I thinking negative thoughts before I go to sleep?

    Yes, just about every night. Can't help but think about why the events in my life have played out like they did, and what I could've done differently. 

7. Am I putting enough effort into my relationships?

    No, I tend to keep to myself and let people come to me. This is something I am currently working on. 

8. Am I taking care of myself physically?

    I am now! Cleaned up my diet. Going to the gym four days a week. I don't love it, but I am starting to feel better. 

9. Am I letting matters that are out of my control stress me out?

    Yes. I cannot control the way people feel about me, but I still let it get to me. 

10. Am I achieving the goals I have set for myself?

    I am not where I thought I'd be at this age, but I am taking the steps to better myself. I am taking the steps for finsih my nursing degree. I am eating better. I am exercising. I just didn't see myself being alone at almost 40. But I am seeing that when things don't work out, there tends to be something better coming my way. Really trying to focus hard on that one. 


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